This Week, Edited: What We Really Learned About Wellbeing, Stress and Burnout

This week wasn’t about adding new wellbeing trends to our to-do lists or ‘fixing’ ourselves.

It was about understanding how stress, burnout, and wellbeing are actually connected — and why treating them as separate issues never really works.

Here’s what stood out to us — and why it matters.

Stress Isn’t a Personal Failure

One of the clearest insights this week was that stress is rarely about someone not coping well enough.

Stress builds when:

  • expectations are unclear

  • urgency is constant

  • recovery is limited

  • pressure goes unspoken

When stress is framed as a personal problem, the solutions become personal fixes. But many of the things that create stress sit outside individual control.

Stress, more often than not, is a signal from the system, not a flaw in the person.

Burnout Is What Happens When Stress Goes Unanswered

Burnout isn’t sudden. It’s cumulative.

It develops when stress persists for long periods without relief — especially in people who care deeply, perform highly, and push themselves quietly.

This week reminded us that burnout often shows up long before people label it as such:

  • loss of joy or creativity

  • emotional flatness

  • reduced resilience

  • feeling “on autopilot”

Burnout isn’t weakness. It’s what happens when stress is ignored for too long.

Wellbeing Isn’t Self-Care — It’s Structure

Perhaps the most important reframe this week was around wellbeing itself.

Wellbeing isn’t:

  • self care trends

  • another thing to add to the list

Whilst self-care trends can be supportive — they don’t address the root causes - or what really fills you up.

Real wellbeing shows up in:

  • Constantly re-connencting with who you are

  • Permission (and support) to pause

  • Small things that bring you joy (if it feels self indulgent - you’re getting close!)

  • Clear priorities, realistic workloads and control over time and pace

  • Systems that don’t rely on constant over-giving (including self-implemented ones!)

Wellbeing also isn’t something you do around work - it should shape how work is designed around preserving and sustaining your energy stores…

(if they run out, work will probably be the first thing to suffer)

The “Wedding Cake” Explained Everything

Sophie’s wedding cake exercise gave us a simple way to see the problem.

Most people are stacking work, responsibility, and care for others on top — while leaving themselves with a thin, unstable foundation.

That imbalance isn’t a personal failing.
It’s incredibly common.

Burnout doesn’t come from having too much on top alone — it comes from having too little underneath to support it.

Why Rebuilding Has to Be Slow

Once people recognise imbalance, there’s often a rush to fix it. But wellbeing doesn’t respond well to urgency.

Many people don’t know what restores them anymore — not because they don’t care, but because years of pressure have dulled their sense of choice and joy.

Rebuilding wellbeing isn’t about forcing new routines.
It’s about reconnecting with:

  • What gives you energy back

  • What feels grounding

  • What genuinely matters to you

Reframe wellbeing away from being self-indulgent or selfish or lazy - it’s how capacity actually returns.

Put like that, can we afford not to focus on wellbeing?

How Stress, Burnout and Wellbeing Are Linked

This week made one thing very clear:

  • Stress is the signal

  • Burnout is the consequence

  • Wellbeing is the foundation that prevents both

When wellbeing is weak or unsupported, stress accumulates faster and burnout becomes more likely.

When wellbeing is treated as essential and structural — not optional — stress reduces naturally and burnout risk drops.

They aren’t separate conversations.
They’re one system.

One Question to Carry Forward into next week:

What would make your energy for work — and life — feel more boosted right now?

Not perfect.
Not fixed.
Just slightly more sustainable.

That’s where meaningful change starts.


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